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The Beauty of Friendship…

Published on May 15, 2015 by NAWatermanLeave a comment

What is the definition of a true friend? Can you count how many people in your life you would define as a true friend?

Someone defined friendship as those people that will…

Fight for you

Respect you

Include you

Encourage you

Need you

Deserve you

Stand by you

With all the people in our lives we call our friends, now that you look at what this person defined as friendship, would you still consider all those people your friends? Some people use the word friend so loosely. A friend should be someone that you would consider to be like a second family to you or even part of your family. A friend is someone that will defend you when others are disrespecting you (whether you deserve it or not)…

A true friend is someone who will always “keep it real” with you. That person or persons will always have your best interest in mind. You can always count on them to be your backbone. They are always around whether in good times or in bad. Now keep in mind “always around” does not always mean a physical presence.

A true friend should not always agree with you just to please you. I mean honestly, is that really a friend or a groupie??? A friend should feel so comfortable around you, that they could be completely honest with you. And vice versa… you should feel comfortable around your friend that you know whatever they say to you is coming from their heart.

A true friend should never envy you or have any distrust in you. I know that we are only human and sometimes jealously gets in the way. But if you are a friend to that person and you are envious of them for whatever reason, you owe it to them to let them know how you feel. You have to let them know that you are happy for them and want to be there to support them, however this situation has caused you to feel a certain way. Believe me your friend will respect you for being open and honest with them. That’s the beauty of friendship!

As I’m getting older, my views on friendships have definitely evolved. I used to think that the people you’ve known in your life for many years, are your friends. Because you talk to them or text them every once in awhile, they are your friends. But I’ve learned that those people are just your acquaintance. It wasn’t until I had my medical issues that I realized who my true friends are. I’ll just say that the saying is so true… “True friends isn’t about who knew you the longest, its about who came and never left.” And although my circle of friends have shrunken in size, I can truly say that I can now appreciate the beauty of friendship.

Happy Mother’s Day to All the Beautiful Mothers!!!

Published on May 10, 2015 by NAWatermanLeave a comment

I just wanted to take time out to wish all of you beautiful Mothers a very Happy Mother’s Day!!!

I especially want to thank the most beautiful mother I know… my mommy!!! She is such an amazing mother and she loves all of us unconditionally. This woman has dedicated her entire life raising her children (and our dad too… haha). Seriously, words cannot express how wonderful my mother is. She is my best friend. I talk to her every single day. My mother is definitely my other half… love ya always 💋

Who Am I???

Published on May 6, 2015May 25, 2015 by NAWatermanLeave a comment

As I look in the mirror…I wonder how could I explain “Who Am I”

I am an optimistic. I love life. I am a believer that there isn’t anything you cannot do in life as long as you put your mind to it. There may be some obstacles that you have to overcome… but if you truly want to do whatever it is… you can.

Who I am is a woman who strives to be successful in love, family, business and most importantly… my health. In previous blogs, I’ve talked briefly about my health issues. I have always been a relatively healthy person. I am all about eating healthy and working out. I mean don’t get me wrong, I do have my cheat days where I indulge in a delicious dessert. Heck I am only human, so I do give into temptations. Anyway…

If you met me in person, you would not know that I might be feeling like crap on the inside. I don’t like people feeling sorry for me and I absolutely don’t like people viewing me as a weak individual. I love to do things for myself and for others. I don’t like to count on the help of others. I have always been a go getter. I believe there is nothing better than doing something on your own and reaping the rewards. I get that from my parents. They are definitely great role models. I also give credit to my brother who’s a couple of years younger than me. He is also definitely someone I look up to and admire. I call him my “lil big bro”.

Ok, not to get off track, let me continue to speak a little bit about my health because it has definitely also influenced who I am as a person. I know a lot of the female readers will relate to my situation when I talk about having fibroids and endometriosis. Fibroids and endometriosis are fairly common conditions millions of women suffer from. However there are some of us who suffer tremendously and it pretty much takes over our lives. I could seriously write a novel about all I’ve been through and continue to go through because of these issues.

I was literally in the emergency room every month due to the extreme pain. And of course the girl who suffers with so much pain cannot swallow pills. Don’t laugh…I know that a grown woman should know how to swallow pills. I always say it’s a blessing that I can’t swallow pills, because I could see how a person could become addictive. As I just finished writing that statement, I know it’s a bad thing for me to think… but suffering in pain all day isn’t a good feeling. I am so lucky I have a high threshold for pain. The body is a natural pain reliever…conventional medication is only temporary and not so good for the liver over time.

I have been on every type of medication from birth control pills, IUD, Lupron, etc; Nothing …I mean absolutely nothing prevented those darn fibroids from growing and trying to suck the life out of me. I cannot count how many blood transfusions I’ve had. I am not proud of it, but it was very necessary to save my life. I have had countless amounts of iron infusions and 4 or 5 surgical procedures to remove the fibroids. I know it’s really sad, I lost count. The last time I practically begged my doctor. My doctor told me and my family absolutely no more surgeries. The only other time I will have surgery will be when I am ready to have a baby. I know many of you were thinking why I am putting my body through so much. Just have a hysterectomy you’re thinking. Well I refuse to do that until I have a child. I will not let this stop me from having the one thing I have always wanted to accomplish.

So Who Am I? I am a stubborn woman who refuses to let any obstacles in life hold me back from achieving my dreams. I am not going to pretend to be superhuman and act as if my medical issues has not caused temporary setbacks. When my issues pretty much took over my life, I had to put a hold on my jewelry business, which at that time was doing fairly well. Now I am back to business and working hard to make it 100% better than it was. I refuse to let this obstacle continue to put a hold on my life. I am a strong person and I always tell myself that you can deal with anything. When you are suffering, always remember that there are so many people out there suffering more than you are… with serious medical issues.

So Who Am I you ask again??? I am a woman determined to make all of my dreams come true. I am a woman who will never take the easy way out. And lastly, I am a woman that will always embrace all that is beautiful about life…

As always, thanks for reading… goodnight and I will talk to you all soon 💋